Is any source of death helpful for coping with ones encounter with grief and death? Some may argue that it does, but death and grief is always a personal struggle. In Joan Didion’s Year of Magical Thinking, Didion draws from many sources of literature and even medical texts to cope with the death of her husband, John.
Being a person who does not address a religious struggle through the death of a loved one, Didion not only shows her readers how lost a person is without faith, but a person in need of finding faith in something. Desperately trying to investigate her grief and its source is odd to me, since grief is only natural to anyone human. But is a person not human if they don’t appear to grieve?
Death in any case is never helpful or useful. That is only society breathing down our necks, forcing us to move on with the threat that if we don’t, we appear to the world as a person lost in an abyss. Death is fundamentally something we all have to deal with in our lives, whether that of someone we know or our own eventual death. Mortality then becomes the main issue here, where Didion shouldn’t necessarily focus on death, but mortality. Although death is a sign of our own mortality, death is negative and therefore swept under the social rug of human flaw. Looking at the race of man as being flawed may offer more comfort in the fact that death is only written about so often because people try to understand why we die and maybe not so much when or where or how.
Although Didion does not directly address religion in her book, she still seeks the same answers that religious individuals also try to find. The afterlife is only one way of approaching grief, but Didion must have found this track commonplace and decided to write something unique in respect to death. Looking at others’ way of dealing with grief may be useful only for the sake of the moment, but in the end we all have to come up with our own way of comfort.
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I personally am not a religious person, however I think I would feel much more comfortable with the idea of death and dying if I were religious. The idea of an afterlife in Heaven is so much more comforting than the idea of just ceasing to exist. Death is such a scary and unknown thing to those of us who are not religious and I think Didion struggles with this as well due to her lack of religious beliefs. It seems that scientific, medical explanations for John's death are the only thing she turns to for comfort.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very good post Zandra.As I read your blog,I began to think about how important faith really is. If Didion wrote this book from a religious stance, I think it would have been a lot more uplifting. As you said in your post, "Death is never helpful or useful"; I totally agree.Death is one of those things where each individual has a different reaction to it. Sometimes when a person has faith, he or she still questions the situation, but when faith is present it makes the grief process a little easier.To sum it up, I really enjoyed reading your post!!!
ReplyDeleteI don't think "ceasing" would be bad at all. Live your life hard and full then stop, take a damn break permanantly. If we had this mentality made all the laying on the couch all day watching the National Labotomy Box. Good post.
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